7 mindset tricks of extremely successful people that will help you reach your goals

7 mindset tricks of extremely successful people that will help you reach your goals

A lot of us tend to think that in order to reach a high level of success, we need to be either extremely lucky or incredibly talented.

This, however, is just not true!

While talent and luck may definitely help in making us successful, they are NOT the most important factors.

So what is the most important factor to success? I’ll give you a hint – it’s something that’s available to every single one of us right now. That is:

Our mindset. 

Behind every successful person, there is the mindset that got them to where they are. These are people who are just like us, but who made a conscious decision to program their mindset for success.

And with a few simple tricks, you can learn how to do the same.

So if you have a goal in mind that you’ve been wanting to take action on, it’s time to start taking some tips from the experts. It’s time to start reframing your mindset for success.

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Mindset trick #1: embrace failure

One of the biggest reasons successful people reach their level of success is because they have learned how to make friends with someone who most of us have sworn enemies with:

Failure.

Now, there’s no denying that failure is frustrating. When we start doing something that we’re passionate about, it SUCKS when it doesn’t turn out well. It sucks when you can’t get the notes right on the guitar, it sucks when you get rejected from an audition, and it sucks when your new business just doesn’t seem to be getting off the ground.

But we can’t let this disappointment get in the way of trying again.

I know you’ve heard a million and one different variations of the phrase “if at first you don’t succeed, try try again”, but honestly, it goes even deeper than this.

It’s more than about just trying again, it’s about truly embracing (and EXPECTING) that you will fail – more than once.

If you want to reach your goals, you need to understand that failure will come hand-in-hand with the process.

The only option is to get on friendly terms with it!

Mindset trick #2: know that you can take the easy route

I’m going to let you in on a little secret: achieving your goals doesn’t always have to be challenging!

This is something that many high-preforming experts have realized. Unfortunately, however, many of us haven’t quite realized this yet.

For some reason, we tend to think that having a big goal automatically means that we will struggle to reach it. We have this notion in our mind that the road to success is always rocky and full of obstacles.

While there may be some truth in this, many experts would be quick to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, they’d tell you that the best way to reach your goals is to take the easy route wherever possible!

This doesn’t mean cutting corners, it just means finding creative ways to achieve to your goals faster and with less effort (in other words, more efficiently!).

Some examples of taking the easy route to achieving your goals include:

  • Focusing on things you’re already good at: use your natural talents as your starting point
  • Allowing yourself more time to achieve your goal: there’s no need to try to accomplish miracles overnight
  • Breaking down your goal into smaller, do-able chunks: turn one big goal into multiple smaller goals
  • Making your goal genuinely attainable: balance your idealism with a good dose of realism

Mindset trick #3: know that you have enough time

Patience is a virtue that most successful people have plenty of. They understand that achieving their goals will take time, and they allow the process to unfold without rushing it or getting bored.

They may have a thousand ideas in their mind of what they want to do, but they have an incredible ability to laser focus on just ONE idea at a time.

This is something that a lot of people (myself included) struggle with.

If you’re anything like me, you probably get super excited thinking about all of your awesome goal ideas. I could do this! And I could do this! But wait…I could also do this!

With a head full of inspiration, it can be hard to press pause and choose just one goal to work on.

But if we want to actually achieve our goals, we NEED to learn how to press pause, and we NEED to learn how to have patience.

The best way to do this is to reassure yourself that you have time. Know that after you achieve this goal, you can work on your next goal, and then your next one, and so on and so forth. You have time to do all of this.

Slow down, take a deep breath, and just enjoy the process – one awesome goal at a time.

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Mindset trick #4: understand the importance of balance

Life is full and life is rich – and this is what keeps it so interesting!

There are so many amazing things in life – friends, family, love, food, dancing, singing, coffee, nature, baths, grocery shopping (well, sometimes grocery shopping!).

Enjoying all of these things in life is what keeps our bodies and our minds healthy.

Successful people know this. They know that while their goals are an important part of their lives, they’re not the ONLY part of their lives. No matter how much work they put into achieving their goals, they never forget about the rest of the world. And they never forget to rest.

Sure, it may be true that Elon Musk worked upwards of 20 hours a day to get to where he is, but I can guarentee you that most successful people haven’t sacrificed their life simply in blind pursuit of their goal.

Why? Because it’s the other beautiful things in life that keep us balanced. And it’s this balance that will lead us steadily and healthily towards our goals in the long run.

Mindset trick #5: expect that you won’t always be motivated

It may seem natural to think that since our goals are ultimately our passions, we should always feel inspired to work towards them.

If only it were this simple.

We have to remember that we’re humans. As humans, we get lazy, we get moody, and we have days where we just don’t want to do a thing!

Even if working towards our goal makes us feel incredibly fulfilled, this doesn’t mean that we will always want to do it. There will be times when we feel resistance – sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.

The difference between successful people and not-as successful people is that successful people expect this resistance. They expect that sometimes (or a lot of the time) they won’t feel like working towards their goals. But what do they do?

They do it anyway.

They reframe their mindset from thinking about their goals as simply their “passion” or “hobby” to thinking about them as an actual job that they have to do. The more they do this, the more they develop the self-discipline to work on their goals consistently.

And it’s this consistency that, over time, leads to amazing results.

Mindset trick #6: think of your goals strategically, not just emotionally

A lot of the time when we think about goals, we tend to think of them as very emotional things. After all, they are rooted in our dreams, our passions, and our innermost desires, so of course they’re emotional – right?

Well, yes. However, successful people know how to separate the emotional side of their goals with the practical side.

They know that while it’s emotion that keeps their dreams alive, it’s practicality that will turn these dreams into a reality.

When you think about your goals, you need to make sure that you’re thinking about them logically. This could mean, for example:

  • Writing down the steps you need to take to get there
  • Defining what your biggest priorities are
  • Defining what challenges may arise (and how you’ll tackle them)
  • Setting a timeline for reaching your goal

A great technique for helping you do this is to reverse engineer your goals. This is when you work backwards from your goal in order to come up with a goal plan. Instead of asking yourself “where do I start?”, ask yourself “what steps did I take to get here?”.

It’s certainly not the glamorous stuff, but it’s important all the same.

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Mindset trick #7: know that it all comes down to action

At the end of the day, the number one thing that differentiates successful people from people who aren’t as successful is that successful people take action.

It may sound overly simple, but just because something is simple doesn’t mean it’s easy.

Too often, we tend to get caught up in over-thinking about our goals. We watch YouTube videos about goal setting, we write down all of our goals in our journal, and we think about how we’re going to achieve these goals.

While this is absolutely GREAT and absolutely NECESSARY, it’s important to remember that the real magic lies within the actual doing.

So if you ever find yourself getting caught up in a bit too much planning, talking, or daydreaming about your goal, remind yourself to get up and actually go DO what it is you’re planning, talking, and daydreaming about!

Action is the only thing lying between you and success. So what are you waiting for?

“Dream big, start small, but most of all, start” – Simon Sinek

How to write to-do lists that actually work

How to write to-do lists that actually work

After years of trying to create a to-do list that works for me, I have finally found a way to make it so that I actually follow through!

It’s honestly WAY easier than you may think it is, and in this post, I’ll be showing you the super simple steps I use (as well as all the things you SHOULDN’T be doing!).

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First, let’s take a quick look at how *not* to create a to-do list.

Top to-do list mistakes

1. Adding too much to your to-do list

If you want to feel super overwhelmed, then by all means, fill your to-do list to the brim! 

When your to-do list is filled with every single thing that you can think about doing during the day, you’re going to take one look at it and feel totally overwhelmed.

Your brain will start bouncing around and stressing over all the things it has to do, which will lead to nothing but a nasty case of choice-paralysis

If you want to get stuff done during the day, then you need to keep your to-do list short and sweet – only add the essentials!

2. Not being specific enough

If your to-do list includes something along the lines of “work on ‘x’ task”, this means you’re not maximizing your list.

When you write down overly general statements like this, what you’re really doing is making more work for yourself later. Instead of looking at your to-do list and knowing exactly where you need to begin, you’ll spend way too much time trying to figure out how to actually START “working on ‘x’ task“.

You want to include specific and achievable tasks for the day. Make them detailed, make them clear, and make them 100% actionable.

3. Not making time for yourself

Free time is so important – not only for our happiness and wellbeing, but also for our productivity!

You need to make sure that you leave enough time in the day to do things for YOU (that is, self-care!).

I don’t think it’s possible to maximize your day – or your true potential – without self-care. 

I like to schedule in self-care/free time on my to-do list so that I never forget to actually do it. The best thing is, I never feel like it’s something I have to do, but something I want to do. It’s a great way to break up your day and make it feel a whole lot easier.

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Okay, now that we’ve covered what you shouldn’t be doing when writing your to-do list, it’s time to look at all the things you should be doing!

How to make your to-do list work for you

Step 1: Write down your intention

Writing an intention down in the morning is an amazing way to set the tone for your day. 

It can be as simple as: “I will approach my day with positivity and appreciate the things that I’m doing for myself”.

Whatever it is, make sure to write it at the top of your to-do list, so that you are constantly reminded about it throughout the day.

Step 2: Only add 3 main tasks for the day

Including only 3 main tasks on your to-do list keeps your mind clear and ensures that you actually get each one done.

If you have multiple tasks that need to get done soon, break them down according to priority and spread them out over the week. Don’t be a hero and try to get them all done in one day. 

There is, however, one small caveat to this. One scenario that can be super helpful in reducing your workload for the week is to have a “do day”. This is where you try to do as many little tasks and errands as you can in one day. I like to have my do day on a Monday, so that it drastically reduces the amount of clutter on my to-do list throughout the week.

Step 3: Add a simple habit tracker to your to-do list

I like having a very simple habit tracker on my to-do list that reminds me throughout the day to drink enough water, get in some exercise, and eat healthy snacks. It’s a great way to keep me accountable for my health and wellbeing while also getting things done!

I also like to add 3 new habits that I’m working on creating for the month to my habit tracker. Again, I keep these VERY simple (like making my bed in the morning, cleaning off my desk, and even eating my vegetables!).

The more I’m reminded to do these things, the more they become engrained in my routine. Eventually, I won’t even need to be reminded to do them!

Bonus: I always include meals on my to-do list! 

I think that one of the most important factors in keeping productive throughout the day is eating healthy. 

Eating full, balanced meals and healthy snacks is what gives our bodies (and brains!) the energy they need to sustain themselves while getting all our stuff done. This is why I like to include a daily meal planner on my to-do list.

Even just including a general idea of your meals for the day will take loads of stress off! Take a quick look in your fridge each morning and jot down on your list some simple meals and snacks you could make that will keep you feeling great!

Now that you’ve got the know-how, it’s time to put it into action!

You can grab a copy of my super easy meal planner and my simple printable to-do list by signing up for all of my free self-care and success worksheets.

Why do new year’s resolutions always fail? The #1 reason

Why do new year’s resolutions always fail? The #1 reason

Setting New Year’s resolutions is something most of us do every single year, but it seems like almost none of us ever seem to follow through with them. So it begs the question, why do our New Year’s resolutions always fail? 

Does this situation sound familiar to you?

It’s January 1st. You’re motivated, you’re inspired, and you’re ready to totally SLAY your New Year’s Resolutions! “THIS year”, you think, is going to be the year I make BIG changes in my life!”.

But after a few weeks into January, you start to notice something…

You start to notice that all those “big changes” you were planning are just…not happening.

What’s the deal?! Why is it that year after year, we so often FAIL to keep our New Year’s Resolutions?

I saw a funny quote the other day that said “every night I go to bed believing that tomorrow I’ll wake up with the motivation and work ethic that I have never displayed in my entire life.”

Honestly, I think this may just be the most relatable thing I’ve ever read.

It took me YEARS to learn how to develop the motivation to truly stick with my goals. It wasn’t easy, and it took practice – and there were definitely times when I strayed off track and had to find my way back again.

But throughout all this practice, I learned a LOT about how our minds work with regards to setting goals for ourselves. So I’ll get right into it, with:

Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

The number one reason why most people fail to keep their New Year’s Resolutions is undoubtedly because they are setting goals that are FAR TOO HIGH.

Although it may seem like it’s a good thing to set high goals, in reality, it just sets you up for disappointment down the road.

Ultimately, when you set goals that are too high, you’re expecting yourself to somehow magically adopt new habits overnight. AS IF adopting new habits was that easy!

The truth is, changing our habits is a lot more difficult than we think.

Over the years, I’ve learned that our ability to pursue our goals and stick with new habits is a combination of two things:

  1. Our underlying motivation behind our goals, and
  2. The habits we already have

In order to make goals and form new habits that we actually stick to, we need to get to the root cause of WHY we want this habit in the first place. How will it make us feel? Happier, more confident, more at ease? How is it going to change our life for the better?

On top of that, we also need to take into consideration the habits we already have. If you naturally wake up at 10am every morning, then setting your New Year’s Resolution to waking up at 6am may not be the most realistic thing to do. Think about your lifestyle as it already is – what are your current habits?

New Year’s Resolutions typically fail when your goals look something like this:

I want to wake up at x time to work out every day and lose x amount of weight by x date

If this is your goal, I can almost guarantee you that you won’t stick with this in the long run. Why? Because this goal does NOT sound fun. It sounds like you’re forcing yourself to do a whole lot of work for a number on the scale!

When you make goals simply in the hopes of reaching a final end point (like losing x amount of weight), you’re not forming sustainable goals. Instead, you’re trying to force habits onto yourself that don’t actually feel good to you and that WON’T work with your lifestyle – which is why you’ll never feel like doing them!

BUT, your New Year’s Resolutions will be less likely to fail if they look something like this:

I want to build a lifestyle that makes me feel energized in the morning – I want to move my body before work, and I want to feel good throughout the day

This is a MUCH healthier and more achievable goal because it doesn’t confine you to strict boundaries and tight guidelines. Instead of coming from a place of enforcement and restriction, it comes from a place of encouragement and inspiration. This way, you’ll feel much more motivated to actually work towards your goal.

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They key is creating goals that are sustainable – ones that you want to pursue, ones that don’t feel like work

One very important thing to remember when it comes to sustainable goals is that you can’t expect them to happen overnight. There’s no way you’re going to be able to go from never exercising on January 1st to all of a sudden being Kayla Itsines on the 5th!

These habits take TIME.

It’s always uncomfortable implementing new habits at first – but if you make sure that your habits are things you actually enjoy doing and make you feel good, then reaching your goals is going to be SO much easier!

Some final tips to help you keep your New Year’s Resolutions:

  1. Focus on how you want to feel, rather than what you want to achieve. This will help reframe your mind into thinking about your goals as something you truly want, rather than something you need.
  2. Don’t make too many resolutions at once! Start out by choosing just one or two good goals – it may not seem like much, but trust me, it’ll be enough!
  3. Don’t expect miracles overnight. Remember that changing habits takes time.
  4. Write down your action plan – this will help you make solid steps towards actually reaching your goals. The more detail, the more likely you are to succeed.
  5. Keep a journal to track your progress. Write down everything – the good and the bad. This will help you learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward.

And finally – remember to go easy on yourself. Make sure your resolutions are coming from a place of self-love and self-respect rather than just self-improvement for the sake of self-improvement. Enjoy the process and embrace the detours. This is what it’s all about!

How to change your habits quickly: the secret that will get you started in 5 minutes!

How to change your habits quickly: the secret that will get you started in 5 minutes!

We all want to learn how to change our habits for the better. Let me be more accurate – we all want to learn how to change our habits for the better as quickly as possible!

I mean, let’s be honest – how many times have we written our New Year’s Resolutions determined that come January 1st, we will be this totally new and improved version of ourselves? Ta-da!

Well, I’ve been studying habits for quite some time now, and sadly, there isn’t really a “quick-fix” way to change your habits – which is why most people FAIL.

Think about it – when you try to change your habits too quickly, your lifestyle won’t be able to keep up. You get overwhelmed, you get disheartened, and then you go straight back to ground zero. 

But don’t worry just yet, because I’ve got some great news…

You CAN change your habits and the course of your life IMMEDIATELY with this one little-known secret…

So what’s the big secret?

Well, it all comes down to you making a decision. You must make the simple decision that you want to change, but you must ACCEPT that this change will be SLOW!

Okay, I know I said that this article was about changing habits quickly, but I need to access the people that think this is possible – and then give them a big REALITY CHECK!

 That’s why this article should really be called…

How to Change Your Habits Quickly by Going Slowly

Paradoxical, I know. But honestly: the fastest way to change your habits quickly is to GO SLOWLY – making tiny changes that will give BIG rewards. 

And I’m going to show you exactly how to do this in just 3 simple steps:

Step 1: Start by changing your mindset

It all starts with your mindset. If you decide to change your life, you can and you will.

Your mindset is so unbelievably powerful. So powerful that people have used pure willpower to overcome extreme life circumstances – reaching crazy levels of success and achieving near unfathomable things (let’s not forget the mothers who have literally lifted cars to save their children).

If you have a strong will, you can do just about anything!

Of course it does take time to overcome your mental blocks, but that initial decision to change your habits for the better is what can change it all!

Here are the 3 most important mindset shifts you need:

1. Learn to be patient: your habits won’t change overnight. You need to realize it will take a bit of time. Be patient with yourself and don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t happen as quickly as you’d like it to.

2. Shift from thinking that you need this new habit to actually wanting this new habit: you need to remind yourself that this habit will bring you to a place that you want to be in life. Don’t think of it as a chore, or something to tick of your New Year’s Resolutions list, think of it as something that will make you genuinely happier in your day-to-day life.

3. Understand that new habits will be TOUGH at first: you have to push through the discomfort – that’s the only way you’ll be able to reach a point where your habits will stick.

Step 2: Don’t expect your entire life to all of a sudden change – start with just ONE habit

Start with ONE habit that you want to change that will give you the most reward. By starting with one small change and sticking with it each day, you’ll get into the habit of self-improvement and continuous growth. Over time, this will snowball into big changes in your life!

In my course on personal development and habit-building (which is coming soon, btw!), I talk about the idea of habit stacking. This is the BEST and easiest way to make lasting change, because it allows you to build upon your habits over time.

It also works great because it makes you develop a “cue” that will remind you to do your new habit every day.

Here’s a quick and easy way to habit stack using cues: 

  1. Start by choosing the habit that you think will change your daily routine the most (and for the best). For example, waking up earlier.
  2. Once you have gotten used to this habit, add another habit that builds off of the first one. For example, adding 5 minutes of exercise to your morning routine. 
  3. Once both of those habits are in place (after about a month or so), add yet another habit onto them. For example, making a healthy breakfast that will fuel your day.

This technique works well because it allows each of your habits to become cues for the next habit, allowing you to add habit after habit to create a routine that works for you!

Step 3: Make a goal plan to help you change your habits

Making a plan can change your life. It can lead to real results and lasting change.

Just the simple act of writing something down that you are looking forward to can make you feel so much happier and more motivated!

That’s why it’s important to write down a simple goal plan that outlines all the steps that you need to take in order to reach your goals and change your habits.

This will serve as a daily reminder that outlines specific steps that will make the whole process of changing your habits much easier. 

Some tips for helping you make an effective goal plan include:

– Choosing habits that will serve your wider goals

– Choosing habits that compliment each other (for example, habits that are easily stackable)

Give yourself two weeks to a month to allow for each new habit to become ingrained in your routine. And remember – some habits will come quicker than others!

The time is NOW to change your habits!

You CAN change your habits and you CAN change your life – and you can do this all right now.

As long as you are willing and able to accept that these changes won’t necessarily be instant – and that they will take real effort and determination – then you’ve already done half the battle!

Some closing words of wisdom to help you going forward:

– It all starts with 3 key mindset shifts – learning to be patient, shifting from thinking that you need to change your habits to actually wanting to change your habits, and understanding that incorporating new habits will be tough at first

– Think baby steps: start small with just one habit change, and work your way up from there

– Take some time to write down a goal plan that outlines the practical steps you need to take to change your habits

– And lastly (but definitely not least!) – don’t be too hard on yourself. Remember that changing your habits is a difficult thing to do – so don’t worry if you run into some bumps in the road (this is normal!). Celebrate the small wins – because it’s the small wins that will over time turn into the big wins.

7 DIY daily self-care ideas you would have never thought of!

7 DIY daily self-care ideas you would have never thought of!

Self-care is all the rage these days, and for good reason – it works! I find that with some of these DIY daily self-care ideas, I have helped both my mental and physical health, and it has made me much more productive!

BUT… it’s really hard to turn that into a habit!

So I’ve put together some fun and easy DIY ideas, so you can make self-care into a habit!

Plus, if you’re looking for some extra help with your self-care, I have some free self-care worksheets that you use that will help you stay on track and incorporate self-care into your daily life!

Idea #1: Self-care popsicle sticks 

When you feel like you need a bit of extra self-care in your day and don’t know what to do (this can actually be the hardest part), just pull from a jar filled with popsicle sticks that have self-care ideas written on them!

You can choose from the 100 self-care ideas!

My favourite self-care activities to include are:

  1. Going on a walk
  2. Cooking a healthy comfort food meal, like mac and cheese with broccoli, peas, and onions!
  3. Calling a friend for a quick chat!
  4. Having a shower and putting on a luxurious smelling moisturizer!
  5. Putting on an essential oil diffuser and reading a book!

 You can also just use pieces of paper if you don’t have popsicle sticks, not a big deal!

 

Showing the self-care popsicle sticks that can be used daily and are easy to DIY

Idea #2: Coloured paper clip habit tracker

One of my favourite self-care ideas that you can do daily is to simply track your habits with paper clips!

It seems simple, but humans LOVE visual cues, and will give you a little hint of dopamine every time it sees more paper clips in the jar!

Soon enough, you’ll make caring for yourself a habit – which will improve your mental health and energy, as well as offering tons of other benefits to your life!

Paper clips to use as a daily self-care habit tracker

Idea #3: Money jar self-care habit tracker

Just like the one above, this self-care activity will give you an even bigger reward – money!

Which you can then use to get yourself a more luxurious self-care treat!

Idea #4: Journaling ideas for daily for self-care

I love to journal, I think that it’s a great way to unlock deeper emotions and get all your feelings out!

I have so many free journaling exercises and I also have some articles that link to them!

100 mental health journal prompts

30 days of self-care journaling exercise

3 Must-Have Journal Exercises For Anxiety

Idea #5: DIY your own fun self-care habit tracker!

Use your creative skills to make an online or paper habit tracker!

Things you can track:

  1. Cups of water
  2. Daily exercise
  3. Meditation
  4. Mood (to see how all of these things affect your mood)
  5. Outside time
  6. Time with friends
  7. Making your bed

You can get my super cute self-care tracker here for free!

Idea #6: Sticky Note Daily Self-Care/Daily Self-Love Affirmations

Keep a stack of sticky notes on your desk and write different self-care ideas or positive affirmations!

Pull one off each morning as a fun way to start your day! Bonus if you stick it somewhere you can see on the daily, it will make it more fun!

Idea #7: Create a Self-Care Space for Yourself

It can be as simple as creating a safe little cove for yourself in a corner of your room, but having a space where you can read and be safe and happy can make a world of difference!

Try adding fairy light, a salt lamp, a nice cushion, and a soft blanket! You’ll feel happy and cared for every day!

I love finding ways to incorporate more self-care into my life and to make it a daily habit!

Do you have any self-care activities that you love? I’d love to hear them!